I have been sick.
Literally for about a year. I have been in denial and hiding and mistrusting my inner wisdom. I stifled my creativity and boxed it away for a rainy day, only to realise how much it festers and rots away at your health. Last year, was a year filled with regrets, bad decisions and fear. Literally, 2019, tugged me at my hair and yanked every little hair out at the roots. So much so, that I refused to post anything on this blog that was even a little inspiring or personal. I did not necessarily want to let anyone know how much darkness I was revelling in, in case you thought I was inviting you to join me!
It all started with a swollen lymph gland in my neck that I refused to have biopsied. Reckless, I know, but fear of needles is real. I ignored it. For months. It’s still there! I figured that even if they found anything, I would be metastatic – Stage 4 – irrespective of whether it was found 6 months ago or in the near future.
I have been rough and tumbling with all my inner demons and I just could not find the courage to face this scare as life was terribly hectic for my family – my husband had major ear surgery, the kids transferred to a new school and we suddenly moved to an ocean side suburb.
So I sat back and pushed and screamed and cried and soldiered on. Always playing out the worst case scenario in the back of my consciousness.
Been taking my Tamoxifen like a good girl and trying really hard to maintain any form of fitness and exercise. Then came December and I was so hopeful that I would make it to the New Year dilemma free, but here’s the thing about expectations, its bullshit!
I could hear my heart pounding in my ears all the time. I was sweating profusely like someone who had a resevoir inside of them that kept overflowing. My bones were aching. I was dizzy and nauseas all the time. Pain in my neck and migraine in the back of my head. A sore throat and no Periods! So…
I was convinced I was dying. Because that’s what fear and paranoia and anxiety does to you.
I had to pray sitting down as I was unable to prostrate… I could barely move my neck, which made me feel really unworthy and angry.
I tried to find my courage, and it really did not show up, like Eskoms power when we need it most… My word. I cried and begged and bargained and pleaded. Nothing.
65 days after my last period, mine came back and ushered in some much needed relief.
A week later, I ended up at the GP with a blood pressure reading of 170/100. I was given a firm talking to, an ECG, diabetes test and ordered to lay down on surgery bed until my pressure came down. Got sent packing an hour later with high blood pressure meds and anxiety meds as well.
And I actually felt so much sicker…
In hindsight, I admit, that I felt worse after taking those meds…
So I stopped…
And I am finally able to place my forehead, nose, both hands and knees and all my toes, on the floor to Pray!
Allahu Akbar! (God is Great!)
I am grateful and thankful, Alhmadulillah (Praise be to God!)